Women in India

Muslim wedding in India.
Muslim wedding in India. Credit: Wikipedia.

By Andrea Alarcón

I have been in northern India for about a week, traveling around with my mother. From now on, I will commence writing about my experiences as women traveling alone (after India my mom goes back home and I will continue on my journey by myself) and my impression of women’s lives in general.

India is a land of contradictions and exceptional contrasts. First, I barely see any women working, not even as cleaning ladies of hotels. Our guides told us they rather have their women at home, and about 90% do just that, whether college educated or not. I don’t see women on the streets, I don’t see women driving. Of course, we only spent about a day in Delhi, and then headed off to smaller cities, but it is quite shocking to see.

Second, every single guide we’ve had has told us very proudly about the low divorce rate, and how it’s only 10%, and I cannot help but find a little correlation between these two situations. When I told one of them that my parents were divorced, he looked at me with that “you poor child” face, as if I had told him they were dead. Then he asked me, “Is it a big problem in Colombia like in Europe and the US?” A problem… I felt the urge to tell him that if their society allowed their women to work, divorce would come in right after. It’s dependency that keeps families together a lot of the times, not happiness. In spite of it being legal, the societal ties that come with marriage cannot be shaken off. If people still don’t choose their spouses, how would a divorce be arranged?

And then of course, the infamous arranged marriages. Apparently the man can choose whether he likes who his parents pick or not, but a woman cannot. The dowry system is still up and running, so having daughters becomes a financial burden. According to The Economist, gender selective abortion and the practice of midwives killing baby girls is so steep in India that the current generation of men will not have enough women to marry.

Yesterday we went on a camel ride in the Thar dessert from Jaisalmer, the Golden City. My camel guide, Sanjay, lived in a nearby town where there is no electricity. He was 28 but looked 38, and told us he had one boy. The girl, he said, had died the day after she was born. My paranoia kicked in, but then, so what? Maybe she was born sick… I hope she was.


2 thoughts on “Women in India

  1. It is estimated that about 50 million girls have gone missing. They are aborted based on their sex. India has passed laws 18 years ago making it illegal for a medical practitioner to reveal the sex of an unborn baby. This law is rarely implemented because most of the government officials and judiciary are apathetic to this epidemic. This has caused the sex ratios to be extremely skewed in certain parts of India.
    Please read the following articles and the story of one lone woman, Dr Mitu Khurana, who has bought a case against the hospital, her husband and in- laws, who illegally found out the sex of her unborn twin baby girls and then tried to force her to have an abortion. She has been given the run around for four long years by the Indian judicial system.here is the website- http://www.mitukhurana.wordpress.com



    Can anyone give a voice to the 50 million girls that have been silenced forever? All Dr. Khurana is asking for is a chance to go before an unbiased judge and be heard. Can we all give a voice to the 50 million murdered and raise the question with Indian officials as to why they are silently witnessing the elimination of a whole generation. The silence of the Indian officials tell the story and makes us wonder if Dr. Khurana and the 50 million dead baby girls will ever see justice done.
    Please give those 50 million girls silenced forever, a voice. Please forward this to as many friends as possible.


  2. A brief update on this: the New York Times “India Ink” blog has this story on the changing divorce trends — and now, laws — in India.


    “While most recent media reports have focused on changing social values behind most divorces, a study authored by Ms. Singh to be published later this year finds more than 80 percent of the more than 400 separated or divorced women surveyed blame “cruelty or domestic violence in their marital homes,” for their split. Two-thirds of the women surveyed suffered from physical violence.”

    Very interesting and worth the read.

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